Betrayed

Doctor P.

I went home a few years ago to marry my childhood sweetheart. We were both divorcees so soon after he came up to the US, it was hard getting back into the couples business.

We seemed to be getting along fine together until he started spending more time watching television in the basement until he would sleep away there alone. He took a computer down there soon afterwards and now he seems to be practically living there.

We do have a marriage still but it is getting further and further in between. Recently I went onto his computer and saw that he was on these porn sites. I confronted him about it and he assures me that he does it only for curiousity and right now I seem to have no choice to either accept it or not because he is not stopping nor even promised me to stop.

What should I do?

[Zoey]

If you are upset about him being on those websites then by all means, find some way to communicate this to your spouse.

BTW, there are no substitutes for intimacy in a happy marriage, so if your husband is still on those sites, it has far gone past, "curiousity." In the final analysis, you'll have to decide if you want just a "marriage" or continue working towards a happy and fulfilling relationship with your spouse. Remember, it takes two to tango.

Good luck.